Before I got pregnant, the plan was to nurse Sam until she wanted to wean. I figured that could be one, two or even two-and-half, depending on her preference.
I get really annoyed by the people who make disparaging comments about older children nursing. Each nursing relationship is unique and comprised of two people, neither of whom should care if closed minded people who have an apparent abundance of time complain about their life choices. The number of times I have heard "if he can ask for it, he is too old to get it," is probably numbered into the thousands. And to them, I say: why do you care?
To be fair, I used to think the same way. But then I started nursing. I kept nursing. Now I know how nice the relationship is and how special it is that I can feed her this way and share this unique bond with my kid. I want the relationship to end smoothly, when she wants it so. But now I am pregnant and, although my symptoms have largely been confined to intense nausea and light cramping, it is only a matter of time until my nipples become too sore to nurse. Or is it?
I just bought the book "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" by the La Leche League to explore my options. The idea of nursing two children fills me with fear, but there are a few compelling reasons to do so:
1.) I will hopefully not go through the same round of soreness I did the first time if I am already nursing
2.) I want a way to comfort Sam and let her know she is still very special to me
3.) I want to allow Sam to wean herself naturally
These were my thoughts when I bought the book. But now I am leaning towards weaning her before it comes to that. Practically, it seems to make the most sense. But I feel so guilty at the prospect of forcing her to stop nursing because of this new baby. I am worried enough about what she will lose becuse this child is coming. The last thing I want is for her to lose something that important to her.
I realize I could just let things progress naturally and see how they go. But that is not my style. I must have a plan! I must have a course of action! Now! But seriously: Tandem nursing, is it is do or a don't? Please share thoughts and opinions. I need all the help I can get.