Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Deep Thoughts

After six months in the mother-hood, one might think I would be adjusted to my new identity, that I would be comfortable and know how all the pieces fit. And if one thought that, one would be wrong. I am still very confused as to how my old self and my new self can co-exist, still very much caught in the "shoulds" and "ought to's" that accompany being a mama.

Today R came home from work and took the baby to the store to pick up a few things. I was alone in the house for the first time since the baby was born. Even though it only lasted 20 minutes, it was a beautiful thing. I mirror danced, I checked my email, I watched Sex and the City (well 5 minutes of it, anyway). I forgot what it was like to not have to worry about anyone but me, me, me.

Yesterday, my sister and I went to the outlets, baby in tow. It was not easy. I love the kid to death, but her phobia of indoor strolling sure puts a damper on my shopping needs. I am also having a bit of an identity crisis. Not sure whether it is my new age bracket (early 30's) or my new role (Mommy dearest), but I am having some trouble finding the style that matches.

Do I wear the trendy pieces I am drawn to? The flowy, faux maternity wear-over-leggings that looks both comfortable and cute; Or do I leave such statements to the Lindsay Lohans and the Hayden what's her face girls? Its quite the dilemma. I tried on several flowy dresses and several tunic tops over black leggings--all very cute. But then I started to wonder if people would think I was odd for dressing trendy. So, tell me, does a mom need to wear sensible slacks and Cosby sweaters in order to be taken seriously? Can a woman in her 30's still get away from wearing the latest trends from Barney's? These were the pressing issues clouding my mind as I wheeled Samara around the mega outlet complex.

Gwen Stefani, Kate Hudson, Jennifer Garner, Reese Witherspoon--all moms, all trendy. Can I be like them? The answer to this vexing dilemma may not cure cancer or stop global warming, but it has me in a quandary. Can a mom in her 30's still dress like she did in her 20's?

****Shout out to baby Isabella who will be one year old tomorrow!! Happy Birthday!!

1 comment:

Kristi said...

I think as long as you're not seeking mommy fashion advice from Britney Spears, you're just fine dressing as trendy as you used to. Clinton and Stacy say that as long as it's age appropriate, women should follow the trends as closely as they want to.

Thanks for the shout-out for not-so-baby Bella's birthday tomorrow. She's almost one year old. *sniff*.