I have complained, bitched and bemoaned the loss of my flat abs ever since having a baby.
I have cried and missed my body like a crazy person had taken residence inside my brain and was making me focus only on numbers on the scale. I have good reason for my tears.
I was lucky the first time. My body went back to "normal" with minimal effort--the running and working out I love to do anyway. This time it seems to be doing the same, although my patience is even thinner (hard as that is to believe and pun intended). I have tried again and again to tell myself that my babies are worth it. And they mostly are.
But I have never seen other postpartum bodies to know if I was normal. Was the flab I sported until 6 months postpartum the same as all women. And the answer? Yes.
Thanks to this site I have some insight into the lines and marks other women deal with as well. I am normal.
Seeing this sort of opened my eyes. My body has been through a major change. I can't expect to look exactly the same (at least not for a while). In some ways, I like the scars. How amazing is my body? Wow. I used to climb mountains, but this is so much cooler, such a greater high.
I may not have the courage to ever post my unclothed "after" photos online, but the fact that some women do has given me strength and made me a little less anxious about my flaws.