I am not really sure how to feel about this article. In it, the writer advocates for being in a hurry when it comes to making babies. She says more than career or anything else, babies and family make women the happiest.
For me, everything she says has been true. I met my husband in my early 20's (22). I married him at 25. And we started having kids before we were 30. That path was right for us in a lot of ways. But this is not to say I do not have some worries. Did I hurt my career by putting so much emphasis on marriage and children? Should I have moved to NYC like I planned in college (before I got derailed by a boyfriend)? That move would have certainly been better career-wise as I would likely be an editor at a women's magazine, which is what I had always planned.
On the other hand, we have achieved our pregnancies with ease, a fact which I realize makes me extremely lucky. I am so grateful for that fact. But would we have had trouble had I waited? And had I moved to NY like I planned in college, would I have even met R or even been married at this time? Probably not.
Since I have clearly followed the writer's advice whether intentionally or not, I have to wonder whether she is just using scare tactics. I get a little sick hearing about our waning fertility after 35. I know many women who have had perfectly healthy pregnancies after this age, including my own mother with my sister. On other other hand, I know very little about the science of fertility. Maybe we do only have limited amounts of time, maybe I have a skewed sense of how long fertility lasts.
Still, I am not happy with the scare tactics inherent in the piece. I do not like the ides of girls as young as my sister at 22 thinking they have to rush themselves to the altar lest their eggs dry up. I am glad with how things turned out for me. I cannot imagine not having Sam and R in my life. But I cannot help but imagine the other routes I could have taken and I hope that young girls will not feel the need to lock themselves into anything at 22.
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