Wednesday, February 13, 2008

To Know or Not to Know...

Since I expected to find out the sex of the baby at the 18-week ultrasound, finding out two weeks early has thrown a wrench into some of my plans. I had a post planned about finding out and why we choose to know early... So before revealing the sex to all, I will write my planned post.

This time around I kept wondering if we should try it the other way--the not knowing way. But since I am not someone who even likes to be surprised, the idea did not hold much appeal. Besides, I have noticed that no matter how much you long for one sex (like I did for a girl with the first), there is a little grief over the loss of the other, even if it was just an idea. Last time I was ecstatic over having a girl, but I also felt a little like the little boy I could have had was snatched away. The last thing I would want is to have that feeling in the delivery room.

Besides, I have always felt that a baby emerging from one's vagina is all the surprise needed in childbirth. And finding out B-dub the Sequel's gender was a big enough surprise last night.

I told myself I was ok with either. I filled my head with visions of both--of the two girls as best friends, of her wearing all of Sam's extensive 0-9 month wardrobe that I love so much and have had to let go. I also had the vision of my perfect boy and girl, the family both R and I were denied as we both came from single sex kids households. I adore my sister and would not ever wish it had been different, but a third brother might have been nice. And R says all the time how he wished he had a a sister, esp. an older one.

And as it turns out....our little BOY will have the family his Daddy once wanted (but hopefully not for the same reasons--"so her friends could have taught me to make out when I was 10")

Yes, we are having a boy (no mistaking THAT on the ultrasound!). Break out the blue. Our family is complete (even if it isn't). We are thrilled and also a little sad. My vision of my army of girls has been surrendered. But my vision of a tiny boy named for both our grandfathers is just beginning....

In late July/early Aug, get ready to welcome one Henry Allen to this page. We can't wait.

7 comments:

Kristi said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!! Sam will have a little brother and you and R will have a son. The hubs and I both come from single sex households too, and I would have loved to know what life would have been like with a brother.

Editorgirl said...

Yay!!!!!!!! Congratulations! I'm so excited for you! Coming from a brother and sister team myself this is great for you and R - one of each!

Lis Garrett said...

Congratulations!

I was told twice that Bridget was a boy. Obviously, "Bridget" is a girl. To say that we were surprised is a huge understatement. Must have been a misplaced umbilical cord (she never fully turned so we could get a decent look). And for a brief moment, I did feel like my son had been snatched away. I got over it pretty quickly though. ;-)

g&c boyarko family said...

Congrats...how exciting!!!

Beagle said...

Congrats! One of each is a nice balance, but in the end any combo is great, right?

Great news!

Crappette said...

Henry Allen! I love it! xx Jess

Stephanie said...

Yay! Congrats! I, too, come from a fairly close in age, younger brother, older sister combo. I wouldn't trade it for the world. :)